I have a bad habit that I am really trying to break. When I forget something, I tend to try to look for others to blame. For example, I forgot to remind you of our Wednesday night class at 6:00 PM on our YouTube channel this week (for the record, until we start meeting in person again, our Wednesday lesson will be at 6:00 on YouTube...if you have any ideas for this class, please let me know).
My immediate thought at 5:55 PM Wednesday was something to the effect of, “If Larry hadn’t have said he was going to be at the building at 1:00 Wednesday afternoon, I would have remembered to send the reminder about Wednesday night.”
Of course this is not totally true...actually it is not even the slightest bit true. Plain and simple: I forgot to do a call and a post on Facebook. It wasn’t Larry’s fault, it wasn’t anybody’s fault but my own.
You know, this seems to be a product of our society and culture: blame someone else. If you forgot something, it was because someone else “made you forget.” If you do something and it is wrong, somebody else is to blame.
Stranger still is that even some with a bad case of the “Me mentality” feel this way. It’s all about me...until something goes wrong and then it is anybody BUT “me’s” fault!
I remember a devotional song that we used to sing a couple of years ago when I was a teenager. The words say “If I don’t get to heaven…” (repeated three times) “...dear Lord, it will be nobody’s, nobody’s, no, no, no, nobody’s, nobody’s fault but mine.”
The second verse says, “If I don’t see my Jesus…” The third verse: “If I don’t wear a crown…” Each ends with the personally accountable statement, “It will be nobody’s fault but mine.”
How true this song is! God has done all He can do. Jesus has done all He can do. The ball is squarely in our court.
I’m really trying to break the habit of blaming others for my failures. Here and now, with little things, blaming others may make us feel better. We may find some relief in shrugging off our personal responsibility.
But on the Day of Judgement, there will be no relief if we try to blame others. If we don’t get to heaven, it will not be our parent’s fault; it will not be our preacher’s fault; it will not be our spouse’s fault; it will not even be Larry’s fault (except for if your name is Larry).
It will be nobody’s fault but mine!