Have you ever watched someone use a magnifying glass? One thing that cannot help but be noticed is that the magnification actually goes both ways...which can be a funny sight.
Each of us has several “magnifying glasses” within us. When we look at someone, many times we will use one of these “magnifying glasses.” This is not always a bad thing...but at times using the wrong “magnifying glass” can lead to undesirable results.
For example, let’s take the “magnifying glass” of emotions. You hear through the grapevine that somebody did something to someone else. Depending on how you feel (what level of emotion you have) for that “someone else” the “something” you heard was done to them can cause you to look in an overly critical way at the “somebody.”
Rather than investigating to see if what you heard was true or if there were parts to the story that the “grapevine” left out, you assume it is true and the “emotions magnifying glass” makes every fault that you see or believe you see in the “somebody” to appear much, much larger than they actually are so that if/when you confront them the result is hurt feelings instead of reconciliation.
In Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus says: “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.”
A magnifying glass can be good and helpful in removing a “speck” from someone’s eye. But as you use the magnifying glass to see the speck, the one with the speck also sees the log in your eye...and it appears much larger too.
The “grapevine” has been known to magnify things too: so be careful about how much trust you put in it. When you hear “something” don’t just assume it is true...check it out.
And when you look into the matter, use the “common sense” magnifying glass. Use the “compassion” magnifying glass. Use the “empathy” magnifying glass. Use the “love” magnifying glass. Use the “patience” magnifying glass.
If you’ll use each of these magnifying glasses, instead of relying solely on the “emotions” magnifying glass, hurt feelings can be avoided and reconciliation can be the result.